Choose your friends by character
Last summer, I’ve passed by this school quite a few times and have read this quote every time. “Choose socks by colour and friends by character. Never the opposite. “
We were on our way home from the birthday party of a friend who lives in the outskirts of the city when I pointed this sign to my kids and asked them, “Do you know what it means?” My 12-year-old son, Ryan, thought for a moment, and said, “Yeah, I think I get it.” And just to make sure, I explained to him, “You know how socks sometimes have different characters in them, like the Disney characters, or Looney Toons, and how your friends have different colour of skin?” And he said, “Yeah, yeah, mommy, I get it.”
Another thing I like living here in Canada is that there is a diverse group of people here. We are a mixture of different peoples from different parts of the world. Since at a young age, my children are already exposed to this diversity and they are used to seeing people of different colours of eyes, hair, and skin. And colour has never been the determining factor in choosing their friends. But rather, they choose friends who have the same interests as them or who they enjoy hanging out with. They choose friends who are nice to them, make them laugh, and make them feel good.
And I hope that when they get older, they will choose friends who are honest, reliable or trustworthy. Or someone who they can confide to and be a shoulder to cry on. Or someone who will be by their side through thick and thin. That’s how I choose my friends.
What about you? How do you choose your friends?
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